Adults navigate the world from lessons learned in childhood growing up in homes and impacted by how our caregivers related to us. After experiencing some disappointments and possible losses, we tend to ward off future pain by developing belief systems and protective barriers about life in general. This leads to functioning unconsciously by our beliefs as to our expectations of others and how we will be treated. We may ignore what does not fit our preconceptions and attract what does fit. This pattern is self-reinforcing and often leads to a vicious cycle. Therapy can be helpful in identifying our view of the world that is often rooted in our childhood experiences. Therapy can help expose the unconscious influence and thus undo the maladaptive or dysfunctional pattern.